Long Term Strategies

Documentation
By documenting stalking activity, you can help law enforcement build a stronger case and better assist you. Use the Victim's Log here and write down everything that happens. Include dates, times, locations, and any exact words that you can remember. Keep answering machines tapes which might include threatening or inappropriate messages. Keep any letters, notes, other writings and any objects or gifts sent to you.

Prevention and Security
Secure your home. Install solid core doors with dead bolt locks. Change the keys to all of your locks and always account for each key. Consider installing a monitored security alarm system. Make sure all windows can be secured and locked. For added safety, install adequate outside lighting.

Use an unlisted phone number. Be selective in giving out your phone number.

Vary your normal travel routes.

Get a cell phone and keep it with you.
Inform trusted neighbors, (RA's in the dorms) or roommates of the situation and provide them with photos or descriptions of the offender and his car.

Have roommates or sorority sisters screen calls and visitors.
Use an answering machine to screen calls and record any inappropriate calls.

If you work on campus, advise your campus employer and campus security.

Restraining Orders
In some cases restraining orders can discourage the unwanted contact. At the same time, these orders assist law enforcement in building the strongest possible case. However, a restraining order should only be obtained as part of an overall safety plan. Stalkers do not respect boundaries. Studies have shown that most stalkers do not obey restraining orders. Also be aware that, for some stalkers, court intervention in the form of a restraining order can escalate the situation and the violence.

A victim can obtain a restraining order that orders the offender not to approach or contact you. Members of S.T.A.T. or the LADA Stalking Hotline 877-633-0044 can provide you with information and assistance on obtaining a restraining orders.

Saying No | Long Term

Evidence is a Key to Prosecution

Keep a log of all contacts made by the stalker, noting the date and time and what was communicated. It's a good idea to list on the log how that contact made you feel, who witnessed the contact and where they can be reached.

Save all evidence, no matter how inconsequential it seems (love letters, notes, photos, flowers, answering machine tapes, etc.)

The Los Angeles County District Attorney's Office Victim-Witness Assistance Program has put together a stalking contact log in PDF format you can download and use.

If you do not have Adobe Acrobat Reader® you can download it for free from Adobe's site.

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